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Repair conversations for couples

A simple structure that turns most arguments into a chance to grow closer.

Dr. Michelle Karume

Dr. Michelle Karume

7 min read

Every couple argues. What separates relationships that grow from those that fracture is not the absence of conflict — it is the quality of repair.

A simple repair structure

  • Pause — step away before words become weapons.
  • Own your part — name your feeling without blaming.
  • Invite — ask if now is a good time to reconnect.
  • Repair — apologise for the impact, not just the intent.
  • Reconnect — a small gesture of warmth to close the loop.

In couples sessions at Recro, partners practice this structure with a therapist present — so hard conversations become rehearsed skills rather than recurring wounds. Over time, repair becomes faster, softer, and more honest.

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